Does anyone know the real you? My hunch is that very few people actually know the real you. This is because all of us have learned how to pretend. We pretend to be a certain way because we want people to perceive us in a certain way. So we put our best foot forward and we work hard at making the right impressions. Most people you encounter are presented with an image you have created that reflects how you want to be perceived. They are not presented with the real you. And so they don't know the real you. We've become experts at image management.
But let's think about this for a second. If people don't know the real you, then they can't love the real you. They can only love the image you have managed to create and project. Part of growing in relationships with others is learning how to be real. Sure, it is scary--especially if discrepancies exist between the image we have created and who we actually are. But who wants to settle for fake love? What value is there in love toward an image you have created? Real love is based on real relationship where people are truly known by one another.
People who know you the best are those you have done the least amount of image management around. Who knows you the best? Does anyone?
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